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Kevin Bussey (aka k-dawg)
Lead Pastor
Charlotte, NC, USA

Samford University: B.S. Public Administration, 1985
University of Alabama at Birmingham: M.A. Education, 1988

Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary: MDivBL, 1995

Married to:
Cassandra (6-25-88)


quote of the week

"Pastor I don't like your plans" Bisagno, "what are your plans." man, "I don't have any." Bisagno, "I like my plans better than yours." .

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building 429: rise

chris tomlin: live from austin music hall

various: music inspired by the chronicles of narnia

fusebox: once again

passion: How Great Is Our God

storyside:b : everything and more

delirious?: the mission bell

hillsong united: look to you


Monday, March 27, 2006

Say what?

A man is suing eHarmony.com because they won't get him a date. Why? He's married. eHarmony says its policy is clear: No marrieds need apply. The man suing is also a lawyer. (Dorcas help us out here) The man is claiming he is being discriminated against. How dare Dr. Neil Clark Warren expect the man not to be married. I wonder if they worried that it will ruin their stats for finding the love of your life. Maybe he is suing because the personality profile should only have 28 dimensions. With all of the important cases that need to be dealt with, what is the purpose in this suit. Maybe all of the publicity will get him a date. You can read about the story here. Maybe Dr. Phil's site will accept him.

posted by Kevin Bussey at 3/27/2006 11:38:00 PM


Blogger Dorcas said...

To be fair, the article did say the man was expecting to be divorced, so he was probably just trying to get a headstart on his next failed marriage.

I am not a fan of e-Harmony. I know a wonderful couple who met through their service and everything seems beautiful. Yet, I also feel it is becoming too popular for everyone's good. This particular lawsuit is frivilous in my opinion ... clearly someone looking for a date probably wouldn't want to date someone who is already married. Yet perhaps it will give e-Harmony an opportunity to reevaluate its program.

Being the curious person I am, several years back I went through the personality profile more as a social study than anything ... I wanted to see what it had to say about the "inner me". It kicked me out as unacceptable too ... because it is a computer program, I figured it was because I was too honest with such things as my weight and my high standards in the guy I was looking for. I probably triggered some box marked "impossible expectations." Or perhaps because I am an attorney and this other guy is an attorney there is an attorney filter in the e-Harmony system they aren't telling us about!

My main concerns with e-Harmony are two-fold. First of all, I went to my alternate e-mail address, toned down my responses to the median human response and was able to clear their filter system and become acceptable ... did I lie? ... perhaps. Suddenly, I was a little thinner and a little less demanding on the type of man I would date. So it is possible to "beat the system" and therefore e-Harmony is not as safe a matching service as they would like to think. I am just a woman with impossible standards, but what other kind of people might be getting through that are smart enough to answer appropriately to get through the personality profile, but are actually very unhealthy and unstable people to date? Too much of an unknown factor for me.

Secondly, e-Harmony is based on compatibility. Their goal is to hook you up with people similar to you. Well honestly folks, I like who I am, but I don't want to marry myself ... I want to marry someone different than me enough to balance my weaknesses. In the one month social study I did of e-Harmony I did not see that it provided for the "opposites attract" factor at all.

Sorry for this long post Kevin. Just a mini-rant I suppose. But I am personally sick of Christian friends looking to e-Harmony as the solution to all their dating woes. We have taken God out of the process and replaced it with a computer program and personality profile.

3/28/2006 05:29:00 AM  

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