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Kevin Bussey (aka k-dawg)
Lead Pastor
Charlotte, NC, USA

Samford University: B.S. Public Administration, 1985
University of Alabama at Birmingham: M.A. Education, 1988

Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary: MDivBL, 1995

Married to:
Cassandra (6-25-88)


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"Pastor I don't like your plans" Bisagno, "what are your plans." man, "I don't have any." Bisagno, "I like my plans better than yours." .

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Thursday, March 30, 2006

Does True Love Wait?

When the True Love Waits campaign came out I was a youth minister in Blue Mound, TX. I have taught it in all three churches I was a youth minister. In TLW the teens sign a pledge remain abstinenant until they get married. A recent study in Texas shows that when a young person makes a pledge to remain abstinenant they more likely to do so. Read the story here. I am amazed at the excuses believers will come up with not to remain pure. It is sin--plain and simple. On the ooze, I am amazed at "Full-time vocational ministers" think it is ok to have sex outside of marriage. I know several of my students who made the pledge but I have heard that they did not keep their promise to God. How sad. Sometimes I wonder if our faith really makes a difference. If we just do everything else that non-believers do-how will we win the world for Christ. The divorce rate among believers is as high as non-believers. Our faith should make us different. Our faith should make the world a better place. God's rules work--but only if we abide by them. True Love Waits works if the person making the pledge is a believer and trusts God to help them. The Silver Ring Thing is another option for churches to use. Maybe alternate TLW and the Silver Ring Thing every couple of years. My prayer is that we don't give up and teach our young people that God has a better plan than the lies that Hollywood is teaching.

posted by Kevin Bussey at 3/30/2006 10:31:00 AM


Blogger Wes Kenney said...

Well said, sir.

Have you ever heard Ken Davis' illustration about seeing a large dog in a dark alley? His brain told him it was a bear, and his feet ran becaused they believed what his brain said. Belief produced action.

If we believe what we say we believe, it must necessarily inform our behavior.

3/30/2006 11:38:00 AM  
Blogger Kevin Bussey said...


I haven't heard that one. But I love Ken Davis. He and my parents worked together in YFC/Campus Life years ago

3/30/2006 12:22:00 PM  
Blogger fidelity said...

TrueMarriage.net for more ways to save marriage.

3/30/2006 12:29:00 PM  
Blogger Kevin Bussey said...


Thanks for the link!

3/30/2006 12:36:00 PM  
Blogger Wes Kenney said...

Obviously, it's much funnier when he tells it.

3/30/2006 02:45:00 PM  
Blogger joe kennedy said...

Does true love wait?

Maybe. But who's teaching what true love is these days?

(Dang I'm on this huge kick about pastors, youth, college, and regular, not doing a great job teaching stuff that counts. Or maybe I'm tired of te repetition. But I'm also tired of congregational apathy. So I guess my real beef is with everybody, including myself.)

Otherwise, I'm finding myself very disappointed in SOME of our former youth. It's hard watching them go to college year after year and forget everything they knew. Even the good ones.

3/30/2006 04:21:00 PM  
Blogger Kevin Bussey said...


It should wait if we are going to be holy. I'm sick just like you. We did TLW or as we called it WWF "Worth Waiting For" and gave out nice rings and such. Now I'm finding many of those who made commitments have not kept them. It is sad that our faith doesn't mean more than it does. I think that grieves God.

3/30/2006 04:37:00 PM  
Blogger joe kennedy said...

I know it grieves me. Do you think Jesus wept over Jerusalem for those who thought themselves holy but had completely missed the mark?

3/30/2006 05:41:00 PM  
Blogger Jeff Richard Young said...

Dear Kevin,

I hope you find the humor in this that I always have:

The TLW curriculum calls for teens to pledge that they will remain "sexually pure until marriage." So, does that mean that after marriage, the pledge for sexual purity is no longer in effect?

Over and over again I find that Baptist leaders are willing to put all kinds of careless, sloppy, not-really-correct stuff into print for use in evangelism and discipleship. (See also hermeneutic backflips required to follow the FAITH witnessing plan.)

Let's get this important stuff right!

Love in Christ,


3/31/2006 01:38:00 AM  
Blogger Neil Elmore said...

it is a frustrating situation, because I have seen all the people, my age, who did the WWF with us, and they mad same pledge that I made, but now they just dont even care.

4/01/2006 12:28:00 PM  
Blogger preachin said...

great thoughts, I signed the TLW card back in 91 and kept my pledge until my wedding day...just as a note most of the people on theOoze aren't ministers vocationally or even in their heads. Many are just really messed up Christians angry at the church...or trying to be different. There are a few of us evangelicals around there trying to keep the peace! :D

4/01/2006 01:13:00 PM  

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