about me

Kevin Bussey (aka k-dawg)
Lead Pastor
Charlotte, NC, USA

Samford University: B.S. Public Administration, 1985
University of Alabama at Birmingham: M.A. Education, 1988

Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary: MDivBL, 1995

Married to:
Cassandra (6-25-88)


quote of the week

"Pastor I don't like your plans" Bisagno, "what are your plans." man, "I don't have any." Bisagno, "I like my plans better than yours." .

Dr. John R. Bisagno:

blogs i read

marty duren
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art rogers
stuart delony
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kiki cherry
david phillips
dorcas hawker
arkansas rasorbaptist
cb scott
ben cole
tim sweatman
jason sampler
mark mansheim
adam feldman
scott freeman
wes kenny
alan cross
john stickley
bowden mcelroy
c w
jamie wootten
nate goodwin
paul littleton
jeff richard young
J. A. Gillmartin
villa rica
phillips lynn
micah fries
preachin jesus
morris chapman
tim sweetman
kevin lancaster
jeremy roberts
al mohler
ronnie floyd
david rogers
sbc bloggers
greg pouncey
jason burns
howie luvzus
gary lamb
angela davis
neil elmore
jason shepherd
monday morning insight
wayne cordeiro
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favorite links

my parents ministry
starbucks gossip
the ooze
willowcreek association
purpose driven
northpoint community church
springs church
albert pujols
shaun alexander
john maxwell
element 2
dale jarrett
bama magazine
bible gateway
biblical studies foundation

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listening [to]

building 429: rise

chris tomlin: live from austin music hall

various: music inspired by the chronicles of narnia

fusebox: once again

passion: How Great Is Our God

storyside:b : everything and more

delirious?: the mission bell

hillsong united: look to you


Tuesday, February 07, 2006

The Unmasculine church......

"Your system is perfectly designed to give you the results you're getting." Business guru W. Edwards
The author of Why Men hate going to Church , David Murrow says the church is not designed to reach men! Look at the statistics. In the average church over 61% are women! But Jesus was a manly man and his disciples were strong men-most of them burly fisherman! Where are all of the manly men in our churches? We had a great deacon's meeting at our church last night and I am grateful for the strong men we have in our church. But we can do even better! Murrow says our churches are designed to get the results we are getting. Men would rather go fishing, mow the lawn, work on a car or go to spectator sports events rather than attend church. They are not anti-God, they just don't want any part of wimpy church. Gary Lamb made some controversial statments on his site a few months ago about wimpy pastors. Gary was right! Men have become disinterested in church. It's not the men's fault. It's not the women's fault. It is the design of the American Church! We have de-masculined the church. Before the NOW women slam me for what I'm saying and what the book propose-- let me say this does not mean a we need a Man-dominated church! I spoke on marriage Sunday and pointed out in Ephesians 5:21, Paul says that we should be mutually submitted to one-another! Domination is wrong! But men have become dis-interested in church. Look around and you will see it. Especially in the 18-25 year old range. You wonder why so many women are un-equally yoked? It is because there is a void of Godly men in the church. Women get frustrated and settle! I have seen it in my ministry way too often. I am looking forward to read this book so that it will give me more insight on how our church can attract men. I truly believe if we attract strong men--the women will follow. Women are doing a great job of ministering to themselves. Women's ministries are flourishing. God has gifted women to build the church as much as men. Unfortunately, they are taking on more than their fair share! Men are absent! Men feel church is for sissy's. Men would rather do something manly. Church men do an occasional breakfast and go to a Promise Keeper's Rally once a year. But we need more than that! We need to create an atmosphere that lets men be men! Let men use their God-given gifts to help the church grow. We can't make them into what they are not designed to be. If we can develop Manly men who love and respect women--I think we can see our churches attract Godly men. I think we will see more Godly families and less divorce! What do you think?

posted by Kevin Bussey at 2/07/2006 09:10:00 AM


Blogger FC Men's Ministries said...

While I agree with the fact that our churches are populated with more women than men I have come to the place after 20+ years in ministry to men that one of the primary reasons for men not comimg to our churches is that they are very tired of always being told what they are doing wrong. Most men are fearful of walking into another church only to hear how lacking they are in their fathering/husband skills. Most men (if they are honest with themselves)are well aware of their lacking in these areas. As a result this makes them easy targets for those that want to point out the obvious. I have come to the place in my journey in ministry that men need to see the potential that lies within them. My desire is to help a man to see what God has placed within him as His child. I encourage them to trust in God's power residing within them to change that which is lacking.This doesn't mean that they just sit there waiting for God to do all the work and they do nothing. My starting place in ministering to men isn't with their problems, instead it's looking at the potiental within each man that is only realized by giving up control of one's life to the one that has the solutions. Today's men understand they have problems and most have simply learned to live with these problems and accept this as normal living. God has even greater plans for them than even they can think or imagine.

Steve Finch

2/08/2006 03:41:00 AM  
Blogger Neil Elmore said...

More Girls For Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2/09/2006 02:24:00 PM  

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The Cure for the Common Life
by Max Lucado

Recent Reads

The Creative Leader: Unleashing the Power of Your Creative Potential
by Ed Young Jr.

Your Spritual Gifts Can Help Your Church Grow
by C. Peter Wagner

Why Men Hate Going to Church
by David Murrow

Advanced Strategic Planning: A New Model for Church and Ministry Leaders
by Aubrey Malphurs

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The Next Generation Leader: Five Essentials for Those Who Will Shape the Future
by Andy Stanley

Choosing to Cheat : Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
by Andy Stanley

The Best Question Ever
by Andy Stanley

Radical Reformission, The: Reaching Out without Selling Out
by Mark Driscoll

A New Kind of Christian: A Tale of Two Friends on a Spiritual Journey
by Brian McLaren

The Story We Find Ourselves In: Further Adventures of a New Kind of Christian by Brian McLaren

Too Busy Not to Pray: Slowing Down to Be With God
by Bill Hybels

A Passionate Church
by Mike Breen and Walt Kallenstad

A Passionate Life
by Mike Breen and Walt Kallenstad

Blue Like Jazz: Nonreligious Thoughts on Christian Spirituality
by Donald Miller

Searching for God Knows What
by Donald Miller

Spiritual Leadership: Moving People to God's Agenda
by Henry Blackaby, Richard Blackaby

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