I'm no psychologist, but I think I know why people can't get along with others. They don't like themselves.

'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself. Luke 10:27

Brennan Manning wrote about this problem here. How can you love other people if you don't love yourself? Look, it comes across as arrogant to many if you say you like yourself. But I think we have to be comfortable in who we are. We have to like ourselves to relate well to others. If we don't then we become fake. I was watching American Idol tonight. They had to sing Stevie Wonder songs. I'm not a big fan of his, but Chris (the rocker) and Taylor (Steve Martin look a like) took Stevie Wonder songs and made it their own. They rocked out. They are comfortable with who they are. So why do some people treat others so poorly? I believe it is because people don't love themselves. They cut down themselves and pass it off to friends, family and strangers. You show me someone who is well liked and I'll bet they love themselves in a healthy way. I'm confortable with who I am. I have a lot of room to grow, but I can relate well with others because I like me. This allows me to see the best in others. When someone tears me down, I remember that God loves me and made me in His image. Sure it stings, but I'm confortable with me. Sure I can be goofy. I know how to laugh - mainly at myself. I learned a long time ago if I'm going to pick on someone- I pick on me. I enjoy life! Some days are more challenging than others, but I chose to enjoy my life. I want to be a "Barnabas" to those who I come in contact with. My mission in life is to "lead people to their full potential in Christ." But I can't do it if I don't love God and love my neighbor as myself.