Communication: What's in your filter?
I am amazed at how communication breaks down. I make a living communicating. Sometimes it is in the written word, sometimes spoken word, sometimes with multimedia and music. I can even do the non-verbal. By the time I get home from work I've used all of my words but Cassandra still has 10,000 left to use. (HA!) Last night I was messing with Greg (storm) and made a post similar to Angelas (DIVA). She said she needed to ask him something when she got to the attik and for him to remind her. I was trying to be funny so I wrote on his tagboard that I had something important to tell him but I forgot it. I was trying to be funny with Greg and Angela. The funny thing is Greg called me to see what I needed to tell him. Sarcasm, anger, love, or any other emotion doesn't come through all of the time in written form. When we started the Bridge Church our first mailer had a top ten list of why people should come to our church. There were many reasons but the # 1 reason was "FREE STARBUCKS COFFEE." I had one lady call me and ask why God wasn't first, and I said it was a joke. Obviously, it wasn't a joke to her. Now, looking back on it, I'm sorry I offended her. I still would do it again, but I would be more sensitive to her feelings. Jason had even better ads but he can share about those on his blog. I couldn't do them justice! Ha!! (do you feel the humor?) I think we all have our own filters. This doesn't mean one's is better than another's. We see things through our own life experiences. Some are more sensitive than others. This is both good and bad. Some have no sensitivity. That can be good and bad also. All this got me to thinking that I need to be more sensitive to others feelings. I need to think about how they might look at what I am saying. I shouldn't try to hurt or make someone mad if I can prevent it. Just because I feel a certain way doesn't mean I have to take it out on others just so I can be seen as real! Of course when we are happy it is good to let that ooze out of us!
posted by Kevin Bussey at 10/13/2005 11:13:00 AM